A Mompreneur’s Chronicle Of Life With Her Boys

What’s in a name?

I have been thinking about names recently, not sure why, but I have. There is so much pressure when you name your child, so many people to please. You want to make sure that it fits with your last name, for instance our last name starts with D, so we couldn’t have a girl with a first name starting with D. I am sure it wouldn’t take much for a teenage boy to call her Double D, if it was appropriate or not. Next you want to make sure that it can’t turn into a funny nickname. Then there is the family pressure to carry on names and make sure both sides are represented appropriately. This doesn’t even take into account any ideas you as parents have.

For us we had a girls name locked for years before we even thought about kids. Unfortunately we never got to use Catherine Ann. Catherine after my grandma, Jim’s aunt and a good friend and Ann after Jim’s mom and sister. (We are giving it out to anyone who would like to use it since we will not get the chance.)

Boys names are so much harder. I think we both knew deep down we were going to have boys because we didn’t have our names figured out. With Jack, we both liked that name pretty quickly, but it took some time to be comfortable with Jackson. Once we decided on his first name the middle one was easy. Edward is Jim’s middle name too and they have the same initials (my dad and I had the same ones until I got married.) We made the mistake of throwing out Jack’s name during a brainstorming conversation with some family only to have it not liked. After that we decide no more, you will know the name when you meet the child.

With Will it was much harder. Neither of us liked the names we hadn’t chosen for Jack anymore, so we started from square one. (It was fun to go through the name books and read all the funny ones.) I wanted a name that was formal, but had a good short version, that way they could choose when they are older which name they would like to use. It wasn’t until about 10 days before he was born that we settled on William. His middle name, Stanton, is after my dad.

For Jackson, his short version was easy, Jack is really the only one that works. William on the other hand has so many variations (Will, Willie, Bill, Billy), however he is just Will or William. (Jack prefers to call him William.) Of course we have nicknames for both boys; Jack is Scooter and Will is Bug-a-boo. I know they will both be embarrassed by them later in life, but I am their mother and get that right.

Feeding is a contact sport

I didn’t realize that feeding a baby was a full contact sport. For the short time I did feed Jack he was generally a pretty clean eater. He did get food on his face, but for the most part he was clean. Will on the other hand is the complete opposite, by the time we are done both he and I are covered.

This is how a typical feeding goes.

  • Yummy peas! He grabs a the spoon and helps you bring it in his mouth, but now is hands are messy.
  • He is still learning to open his mouth big enough for the spoon, so he gets food all around his mouth and sometimes in his nose.
  • One of his favorite skills right now is to blow raspberries (or spit), until the last few days more of his food would come back out than stay in, now his chin and bib are covered.
  • As I try to get the spoon through the gatekeepers (his hands), I tend to drop some on his tray, which his hands and arms now get in it.
  • At some point he will rub his eyes and/or put his hand in his hair.
  • In the end his entire face (sometimes head), all the way under his chin and up to his elbows are completely covered with whatever he is eating.
  • As for me, I end up with it on my hands and forearms, if I am lucky enough not to have dropped any in my lap.

It is very cute, but I have to be prepared for the mess. I wonder what his means for him as he grows up, will he always be a messy eater? If he is, at least he will have fun while he is eating. The interesting thing is he tends to be drawn to veggies, carrots and peas have been his favorites, so far.

I think the key for us is to wear the color of the food he is eating. At least it is fall now and earth tones are in.

6 months old!

I can’t believe Will is 6 months old today. The time is going so fast. It feels like I was just meeting him in the operating room as he pooped and peed his way into the world. (His body decided to let everything go right after he came out.) It has been a busy six months, back and forth to California 3 times, visits from YaYa and Auntie Jean and lots of doctor appointments. Not to mention his milestones, holding his head up, rolling over, sitting up, getting 2 teeth and mastering the jumper.

In some ways he seems older, because I flash back to Jack and what he was doing during the same time of year. I have to remind myself that he is really 2 months younger than Jack was that this time of year. It doesn’t help that he is wearing the same clothes that Jack did. (very nice for the pocketbook)

We are excited for the milestones he will reach in the next six months. (Maybe one will be tomorrow cheering the Huskies to a win over USC.) I will have to start thinking about his first birthday party. Unfortunately he will not be able to dive into the frosting, unless Auntie Steffi can figure out how to make dairy free frosting.

Will is sitting

Will SittingWell technically he probably has been sitting for a couple weeks now, but he would usually only be upright for a short time before toppling over. Once he started to lean, the big melon takes over, gravity brings him down pretty quickly. In the last several days he has gotten much more stable and will even right himself pretty well (the melon still wins and brings him down periodically.)

As any parent does we are checking development milestones off the list and this is a big one. This is one that is funny tho, because it is such a gradual lead up to success, not like rolling over, crawling or walking were they weren’t one day, the next day they start and by the third day they are good at it. Sitting up like holding their head up is so much more gradual. You prop them up and the stay up for little bits of time and eventually they get better and better at it. Jim said they other day “Wow he is sitting.”

Sitting is also one of those milestones that make life easier for Mom. Now instead of having to find a good place to lay him down, you can just sit him on the floor (a clean floor of course) or in the shopping cart or with his brother and a toy. Today, Will decided he was done at the Kids Klub at our gym before I was ready, so he came and sat on a towel while I finished up. The other nice thing is he can look at his toes if you don’t have a toy handy. Will’s toes are his favorite body part right now (I am sure that will change when he gets older.) He just needs to eat them all the time, if he is laying down up come the feet and if he is sitting down goes the face. The other night he tried to get them while he was in the bath tube and was surprised every time he put his face in the water. I just wish I was that flexible now.

So here is to sitting up, another big milestone to check off for Will. Daddy has already started “crawling lessons.”

A tooth?

So last night at dinner with friends I found that William has a tooth. That is 3 months earlier than Jack and 2 months earlier than his cousin. I had checked him a few days earlier and didn’t see anything, not that he makes it easy. There it is today. Is a 2nd one going to pop through too?

How much of what has been going on is due to his tooth? It explains his mild fever, looser poops and crankiness. Not wanting to feed is part of teething, we have now read. See, we never experienced feeding and teething together. Jack was tube-fed when he was teething. Plus it is really early for a tooth. Our pediatrician thinks that what is going on has to due with 3 things.

  1. the tooth
  2. reflux
  3. developmental changes that take place around now

Our challenge is going to be figuring out what to do and how best to manage this. We are hopelessly jaded by our experience with Jack, so even if this is “normal baby stuff.” The first thing we will always think will be could this be the beginning of another feeding aversion and on the road to another tube. We try really hard to remember that Will is a different child and no matter how similar the situation may seem it could be something different. Here is hoping this is all just about a tooth.

I do have to say I am a bit sad that he has a tooth already, because I love the gummy grin.