Why Not Select Golf?

Jack golferBelieve it or not Jack is actually getting into the age range for select sports. You know, when kids have the opportunity to “play up” or join a team of all-stars and log lots of miles traveling from tournament to tournament. He could be trying out for baseball already and soccer starting next year and those are just the ones I know of now. It seems these days kids start specializing in sports at younger and younger ages. These select teams play year round and can be a significant financial commitment too.

Jim and I were talking about what sports we think that Jack would not only be good at, but also enjoy. So far he has mainly been exposed to the traditional kid sports of baseball, basketball, soccer and of course golf. As his friends start to really specialize and stop playing the rec sports leagues we want to make sure he has options and understands what he enjoys. We are pretty sure he isn’t going to be a top level baseball, basketball or soccer player. But he could be a great golfer.

Golf is an overlooked sport for kids. But why? It teaches a lot of good values, sportsmanship and skill. You need good hand-eye coordination and the ability to replicate a complex swinging motion the same each time. There is strategy in understanding required on how to play the holes; it isn’t always the smartest to just try and hit the ball as far as you can. Kids learn life lessons and values like etiquette, respect and patience. It is the only sport I know where referee yourself and assess penalties, even at the highest level. What a great concept – be accountable to yourself first.

It is also a sport you can play your whole life and with anyone at any level. Jim’s 83 year-old father plays at least two rounds of golf a week. Through handicapping, the playing field can be leveled and anyone can compete fairly and evenly against each other. An 83 year-old can’t play baseball against a 25 year-old and have a chance at even competition. As soon as Jack has the stamina to play 18 holes, Jim and I will take him out with us. For now, we will continue to play Par 3 courses. You can get a fair amount of exercise golfing, walking the course could add up to at least three or four miles depending upon the course you play.

Sarah 2012 Fanning Memorial   Jim 2012 Fanning Memorial

Jack has a great swing. He has played at golf camp the last three summers. Jim started playing at 13 and has never taken a lesson, but wishes he could have started earlier. Who knows how good he would have become (he got as low as a single digit handicap before kids and has shot even par once). I didn’t start playing until I met Jim, but have been told I have a very natural swing. Jim actually taught me to play. We really enjoy playing and wish that we could play more together as a couple. Will is going to play too, but he is a lefty so it will require a little more thinking on our part as we teach him to swing.

So I when your child is looking at sports why not try golf? It is a wonderful sport that is fulfilling both on and off the course.

Olympic Spirit

london olympicsOur house is in full Olympic spirit. Despite missing the opening ceremonies due to a camping trip at the beach, we arrived home and settled into our traditional viewing spot. I was pregnant during the previous two summer Olympics with bad morning sickness, so at least I had fun things to watch while resting on the couch.

One of my favorite things about the Olympics is that sports you wouldn’t normally see and are hardly ever on TV are now news. Like judo, diving and white water kayaking, these are fun to watch and the athletes are as good as anyone. I love the equestrian, 3-day eventing and jumping. This is the sport that I dreamed of competing in at the Olympics.

The Olympics are such a good representation of sportsmanship. The athletes competing their hardest and understanding the importance of the moment and what a privilege it is to be an Olympian. Missy Franklin is a great example of this, wise beyond her very young 17 years. I also enjoy watching how the athletes support each other, attending other events and cheering on their team.

So we will enjoy every moment of the games of the 30th Olympiad and will look forward to the Winter Olympics in 2014 when the 2012 games conclude.

Are you enjoying the Olympics? What are your favorite events?

Where the Girls Aren’t

Last week the Our Lady of Sorrows high school in Phoenix forfeited the Arizona Charter Athletic Association’s baseball championship game against Mesa Preparatory Academy, because Mesa Prep’s second baseman is a Paige Sultzbach, who just happens to be a girl. They cited their policy prohibiting co-ed sports. In a statement to Fox News, Our Lady of Sorrows stated that they believe in “teaching our boys to treat ladies with deference, we choose not to place them in an athletic competition where proper boundaries can only be respected with difficulty.” Paige Sultzbach tried out for the baseball team because there isn’t a softball team at Mesa Prep. She not only made the baseball team, but actually beat out boys for playing time at second base.

My first thought was, “What year is it? Aren’t we past all this?” The 40th anniversary of Title IX is coming up in about a month and Our Lady of Sorrows’ decision is an unfortunate reminder that discrimination still exists. I feel bad for Paige and all of her teammates, because they lost out on the opportunity to prove that gender doesn’t matter — if you are capable and prove it, then isn’t that enough? They deserved the chance to finish their undefeated season with a legitimate win for the championship.

I wonder what this is teaching all of the boys and girls involved and those that are reading about it in the news? As these children grow up and prepare for the rest of their life, they will face environments where men and women work side by side each day. Isn’t it better to teach them as early as possible to exist and work as a team while respecting each other? Women struggle for equality in the workplace and in life already and we don’t need a school, let alone a Catholic one, reinforcing these archaic views. This decision by a school that claims to follow the teachings of Catholicism seems incongruous and inconsistent with the letter and message sent by Pope John Paul II to women of the world on June 29, 1995. In the letter posted on the Vatican’s web site, Pope John Paul II states:

“…There is an urgent need to achieve real equality in every area: equal pay for equal work, protection for working mothers, fairness in career advancements, equality of spouses with regard to family rights and the recognition of everything that is part of the rights and duties of citizens in a democratic State. This is a matter of justice but also of necessity.”

My mom instilled in me that my sister and I could do anything we wanted regardless of our gender. We are strong women who are now raising four boys. Our boys are respectful and loving and consider women as their equal, not the lesser sex. If only everyone saw it that way.

Crazy Hair Day

This week is Spirit Week at school leading up to the big Halloween Bash and Walk-A-Thon on Friday. Monday was inside out and backwards day; Jack wanted to wear his pants backwards, but I convinced him it made going potty difficult and inside out would be good enough. Tuesday was sports day and he wore his San Jose Sharks jersey.

Today was crazy hair day and he decided he wanted it to be purple and gold with a big W. He even wanted a small W on his forehead, but that was to hard to fit it in. Maybe next year. This is some good Husky spirit, hopefully it will bring the team some good mojo this weekend.

  

Linking up with Wordless Wednesday at Project Alicia and And Then She Snapped.

Little Sports Fans

When the calendar turns to September that means Husky season is here and most Saturdays are filled with football watching either at Husky Stadium or on TV. We have been lucky enough to be in a group of season ticket-holders with our good friends Dana and Alan for the last nine years.

The boys have been going to games since they were months old, although I have my rules — no night games and no rainy games (because we have our fair share of those in Seattle.) Jim has proudly taught the boys the phrases “go Dawgs! Woof! Woof! Woof!” and “go Huskies!” and get them revved up for games with YouTube videos and GoBlawgs.com posts.

husky flag

As infants, the boys just slept through most of the games or were happy being held. Once they could move around it became more difficult to keep them entertained for four quarters. And two-year-olds are a whole different story — wiggly, opinionated and right where Will is now.

It takes a backpack full of toys, books, food, and a row of empty seats to keep Will happy at the game. Luckily Husky stadium hasn’t been completely full and the bottom five rows of our section are usually unoccupied. Right now, our strategy is to head down to the open rows where we have more room and everyone has a better time. Unfortunately this is at the expense of spending time with the rest of our group but necessary right now, knowing that it won’t always be this way as the boys grow. Will plays cars and action figures for a while, and then trades them in for a snack and some books.

At halftime we usually try to head out to the Zone, a great tailgating area right behind the stadium. The boys can move around some more and Jim and I can get a beer. During the second half, both boys get to watch/play iPods. This way Jim and I actually get to enjoy the rest of the game.

If it happens to be an afternoon game and Will decides he wants to take a nap, I put him in the Ergo and walk back to the car or just around to get him some shut eye.

This is our sophisticated and time-tested strategy for how we make football games work with a six year old and a two year old. We work hard at it because he boys love going to games and it is good quality family time. Do you take your kids to sporting events?

Good Sports

It is hard to teach our kids how to be a good sport when we are confronted every day with so many bad examples of sportsmanship. It is no longer exclusive to the NBA or the NFL, it even now permeates the most gentleman of sports, golf.

Over the weekend, Tiger Woods’ former caddie, Steve Williams, helped his new boss, golfer Adam Scott, win the Bridgestone Invitational. Williams has been an interesting subject for reporters over the years, and most recently after he was let go by Tiger. After the win over the weekend, Williams was interviewed on the 18th green by CBS (it is unusual for caddies to speak at all but Williams is known to open his mouth from time to time). He told reporters this was the best win he has ever had. Keep in mind that he caddied Tiger to 13 majors wins and 16 world titles. Tiger paid him millions of dollars in salary of his tenure. Williams proceeded to show his obvious bitterness about his dismissal last month and we are all left to wonder why he would lash out in such an immature manner against someone who has made him a multi-millionaire for carrying a golf bag. Regardless of the circumstances of his firing, it was a classless act and Williams should be ashamed.

We work very hard at raising our boys to be balanced, well-rounded individuals, who are loving and kind as well as strong and confident. As they are starting to play sports we are already confronted with a shocking amount of competitiveness. In our second year of T-ball there is already a push for the boys to be hitting pitched balls, keeping score and making outs. The kids are six. What happened to learning fundamentals, rules, sportsmanship and having fun?

Jack — who isn’t overly competitive in daily life – already gets frustrated when he doesn’t win (including board games). Competition is engrained in most of his social settings with other friends. We keep hoping things will balance out so he and other kids can learn how to handle themselves with grace and dignity.

With all the bad examples of sportsmanship, we as a family try hard to find positive role models for our boys. Luckily we have had an ideal role model right in our backyard for the last four years — Jake Locker, the former quarterback of the University of Washington Huskies and current quarterback of the Tennessee Titans (and Jim’s man crush.) Jake is a local boy who decided to stay close to home to go to college even though the program was a shell of what it once was. He started for four years, including forgoing a chance to go out in the 2010 draft and make millions more than he did entering the draft a year later. He handled himself with professionalism and grace even when he was the quarterback of a 0-12 football team.

Every year the Huskies hold a photo day where the players mingle with the fans and take photos. For Jake’s final two seasons Jim wanted to make sure we were not only able to meet Jake, but be first in line. And we were. Given his popularity, the line wrapped around the field. Jake was very sweet with the boys and happily signed the photo of him and the boys from the previous photo day. ESPN even picked Jake to follow during the 2010 season and aired the coverage during the lead up to the draft. It showed what a good person he is on and off the field. Needless to say we are now Tennessee Titan fans in our house (I am sure Jim’s jersey will be arriving any day now.)

2009 jake and boys

We can only hope that our boys learn how to handle themselves like their role model Jake. I hope that we are able to instill the values of good sportsmanship in our boys, so they understand it is not about winning or losing, but about how you play the game.

How have you taught your kids sportsmanship? What tools have you used?

Photo Friday

Photo Friday – Football Fans

seahawks

This is in honor of the Superbowl this weekend. To bad the Seahawks miracle run ended a couple weeks too soon. Will and Jim were cheering them on against the Bears. Jim is sporting his Jeff Feagles jersey. (Yes I said Jeff Feagles.) I had to special order it, because at the time (~12 years ago) he was the best player on the team. Kakaaaw!

First goals and turf turds

soccer3.jpg Jack has been playing soccer for the last few weeks on his  first team. His team has 6 players total and they play 3 on 3 games. It turns out that most of his team played baseball together, it has been fun to see all these kids again. It took one game for the boys to figure out the game and since then they have been blowing away the competition.

They play on Friday nights at these new turf fields. The 2 large fields are subdivided into about 20 tiny fields for the little guys. As any of you who have ever walked on the new style turf fields knows, they have these small rubber  pellets (turf turds) to provide extra cushion. However the turf turds get into everything, socks, shoes, bags and shorts. Needless to say we take off as much as we can in the garage, soccer1.jpgbut they still find their way into the house.

For some reason Jack hasn’t been playing as his normal competitive self. He will run around on the field, but wasn’t engaging with the ball very much. All of the other boys had scored goals except Jack, until last Friday that is.

soccer2.jpg Jim wasn’t at the game (he was going to the Alice in Chains concert), so I was there with both boys. Will has to stay in his stroller, because otherwise he runs through the game and across the field. (This makes him not a very pleasant fan, also because the games are during dinner time and they don’t want food on the fields.) I was trying to watch and cheer for Jack, video tape some of the game (because it wasn’t raining) and attend to Will, not an easy feat. I recorded the first few times Jack was in and then needed to move Will to a spot I could give him some snacks. During this turn in Jack received a pass from one of the other boys and one timed it into the goal. Everyone cheered for him and he was very proud. Unfortunately Daddy missed it and I didn’t get it recorded. Hopefully he will score another that he can see and I get on video.

I am wondering if Jack is going to be a defender. I just hope he likes soccer and will want to continue to play. As always he is the most enthusiastic teammate, which shouldn’t surprise anyone; I really hope he will keep that spirit.

A little fish

Jack has been taking swimming lessons all summer. He started out with lots of enthusiasm, but not very much skill. Now he is learning freestyle, back stroke and breast stroke. I think we have a little fish. He loves the water and would swim all day if I let him. To bad our climate and the size of our yard make a pool not conducive to having a pool. (I have always wanted a pool.)

Photo Friday

Photo Friday – Golfer Jack

Jack golfing Jack golfing

Jack had golf camp this week, which he got to use the clubs that Grandma and Grandfather for Christmas. He learned a lot and had a great time. Today for the last day they had a little tournament in which he got a birdie and his team won. They played the par-3 course at the facility. We can’t wait to take him out to play.